It’s such a big question. I guess love is just like a response to time spent with a person and I think if you truly love someone then you have to just let the be as they are and to not expect anything in return. To let it be and to let it go away then come back. Freedom.
I’m not really sure how to describe love. I feel that there are so many different types of love as well. Love for your family, which is, it’s like an engrained sort of feeling because you have spent so much time with them and you have experienced them growing up and in so many different situations and um I guess, for me, my family, because I live overseas, I am coming and going, and seeing them throughout their lives often six months apart… but it’s, I always find that I’m able to reconnect and it’s almost grounding to come back to whereas there’s other types of love as well, like the love that you have for your friends, which is, it’s, you don’t have to come back to them because you know it’s not the same sort of thing with family. And there’s like, passion, and that’s totally different again, which is, can often be more chemical and physical as opposed to emotional.
I don’t know, I think the biggest thing that I’ve found with romantic love is that you just have to not have too many expectations of where it’s coming and where it’s going. It’s like what you feel should be happening in different parts of your life, and how people should, um, interact with you and that’s something that I’ve realized I that my expectations, often, as a female, are quite different from a man. We interact totally differently because we’re just programmed in a different way.
We have to learn how to communicate. Everyone wants to be able to connect with other people but it’s learning how to communicate and that’s not necessarily something that we’re taught and depending on how you grow up and I guess your family environment. Certainly wasn’t something that I was taught at school, my parents are divorced so, they weren’t particularly good communicators and yeah, so, I think that a lot of love is just learning how to listen and understand other peoples rhythms and so essentially giving them freedom to be who they are. You kind of need to I think put yourself first as well, so if you are personally not satisfied it’s very difficult to satisfy another person because it’s amazing how we can so easily read if we’re putting on a front, if we’re masking our own desires whatever that may be… maybe from a work or a creative point of view, or if it’s like, even if it’s something more practical, if you want to have children, if you want to live in a certain place or everyone has their own agenda, I suppose, so if you’re not true to your own wishes then it’s difficult to connect with someone else I think in an honest way.